His approach takes into account the dynamics of the whole family, recognizing that a parent's anger or inability to connect can further traumatize the child.
Post was himself an adopted and disruptive child. Now, at the Post Institute for
Family-Centered Therapy and in workshops around the country,
he helps parents learn to provide the brain-shaping experiences their children
Bryan thinks that a
parent's own attachment issues can get in the way of seeing that a child's
out-of-control behavior comes from fear, not, as it often seems, from
maliciousness, defiance, or an evil nature. Once parents can remove
their own fears from the relationship, it's easier for them to heal the child's
fear. Sessions with parents begin with whatever behaviors or problems seem most
critical to them. While the end goal certainly is to help the child develop
into a loving, happy, and responsible member of the family, these first steps
are as much about guiding the parents into a deeper understanding of
themselves.In interviewed Bryan and included his work in my book. Since then, his model has evolved to include the new science of oxytocin and bonding. In fact, he and I are collaborating on a new book, tentatively titled Oxytocin Parenting.
Whether you are parent to a child who's been diagnosed with a disorder like RAD or Oppositional Defiance Disorder, or are looking for a better way to parent, Bryan has practical approaches that help you create better bonds with your children -- which leads to better behavior and a happier home.You can learn how to use the new science of oxytocin and attachment to help your kid in a free webinar next Thursday, April 8, at 9 p.m. EDT. To reserve your spot, register at http://postinstitute.com/webinar/.
Bryan is an inspiring, emotional teacher. Joining him will be Helene Timpone, LCSW, who's an expert in parenting teen-aged girls. I highly recommend this event. And I'm honored that they will feature my book.